Some of my least favorite words strung together are “I’m sorry but.” The use of those words tell me what poster is about to say is self serving and mean, and they really are not sorry that they are on the attack.
I see those words and finish the sentence in my head… I am insecure and need to make you feel badly or self-conscious so I can feel better about myself for a moment.
Seems harsh, I know, but definitely not passive-aggressive like the “I’m sorry but” post.
Hypocrisy? Perhaps. Quite the conundrum.
So, how do I fix it? How do we share our differences of opinion without being rude and disrespectful to one another š¤
I try to approach things from a positive level. When I share thoughts, rather than wallow in the what I don’t like, I shift to what’s good, what’s positive, what can lead me up and out instead of spiraling further down. Now don’t get me wrong when I’m in a foul mood I absolutely can sling it from the cheap seats and hit my mark. Ultimately, I feel awful afterward, even if the intended target seemed to deserve it at the time.
Once upon a time, a less mature me wouldn’t have stopped until the bell rang.
I’ve discovered that walking away is much more gratifying than wrestling in the muck. Achieving peace is my goal, and I’m not sorry about that.
Wherever My Heart Lead Me 
I guess becoming “more mellow” is one of the perks of growing old-er? Anyway I’m more likely to walk away these days, too. Not worth the energy to argue / discuss, etc. There’s a peace in keeping silence at times. Who knew? Certainly not the young me!
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